The debate about whose wedding it is, the parents or the couple. has been one that I have had with myself as well as others. Of course it is the wedding of the Bride and Groom. But it is also a celebration for the 2 families and their friends. In my young, oblivious way, I got that. My wedding was very simple and small, and I still didn't know everyone there...... it was a wonderful and meaningful and fun day!
Would it have been easier to have had just family for the No. 1 Son's wedding? This very limited guest list is not fun. I just need 3 more invitations. The Groom-to-Be is not empathetic.
"Back in the day", the wedding was a celebration given by the parents for the couple, and therefore was considered their party---- rehearsal dinner and wedding. When did the parents loose at least 1/2 of the decision-making power? Playing the money card just doesn't sit well with me and it would do nothing for our relationship.
What got me going recently was when my son made a comment about getting together with a couple for brunch on the weekend of his hometown parties. This precious couple are originally from India and are so excited that the No. 1 son is marrying someone who is Indian, that they want to meet and entertain her family with ours. His comment ,"I don' t know those people and we need to get home early." , really got to me. If he were 22 I would have more patience. But he's 29.
I don't want you to think less of my precious son. He is sweet, smart and handsome. I love him so, so much. He just doesn't like to be the center of attention and he has a shyness about him that sometimes he masks in an attitude. I do understand that. I have a lot of that shyness in me that I work on everyday. But: Come on! Really! Really? Get with the program. Grow up! Time to be an adult! Think about someone else! Think! Please! Please?
So, whose wedding is it, anyway?
OK, I think I have vented enough.
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